tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669032.post2773398146298271333..comments2023-11-05T01:57:39.321-07:00Comments on Niki's Blog: Bloody blog, House Husband, SADNikihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08754703726584658268noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669032.post-19515042406563269522007-05-20T09:16:00.000-07:002007-05-20T09:16:00.000-07:00There's something I want to note about Fran and SA...There's something I want to note about Fran and SAHD-ness. That's all he had to do: be a SAHD for a week. This is not to take anything away from his awesome-ness because he remains an incredibly devoted, attentive father. But so far as direct comparisons go, it's not fair for you to measure yourself side by side. <BR/><BR/>You've been doing it for more than 7 years, with no end in sight. For you it is a permanent condition, and for him it was a week's joy-vacation. <BR/><BR/>You noted the physical component of the infant, but for you NOW, Toddlerness still require much more physically from you than she does her father or anyone else. <BR/><BR/>You're not on-site, but you're still studying. <BR/><BR/>Nursing, studying, running the <B>measured pace of someone who is in the year-long marathon</B> instead of the week-long sprint: these things set you apart right now and I won't hear you disparage yourself. <BR/><BR/>Thank you. Lecture over.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04944128586617435810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29669032.post-10737146769898787142007-05-18T10:40:00.000-07:002007-05-18T10:40:00.000-07:00Niki, you are so eloquent. I just love the way you...Niki, you are so eloquent. I just love the way your words flow together. They really get me going.<BR/><BR/>IMO, you are doing the right thing by standing by your "reproductive rights" in your relationship. I don't know Fran, but through all of our talks and reading your blog I feel that I can say with confidence that you have an amazing husband. And, although he may be disappointed about waiting to have another baby, let him know that it's what you want also, but you just need to get through school (another two years) and then you can go for it. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure you've been through this with him and in your own mind, but I thought I'd just give you some "detached" support. I think you are right to put yourself first in this case. As a mom and a partner you put others first so often. You deserve this!<BR/><BR/>One last thing...sometimes people who get depressed can benefit from having a full-spectrum light to sit under during the dark season. Do you have one? If not, I do have one that I'd be happy to give to you. You can look it up if you'd like: <BR/><BR/>Verilux 3-in-1 Deluxe Full Spectrum Light. <BR/><BR/>It ain't pretty, but it's good for you. You be needin' the vitamin D!!<BR/><BR/>And it would give me a good excuse to take a day (or more!) to come and see you and have coffee.<BR/><BR/>Peace out.Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06707737527101259629noreply@blogger.com